Hi I’m James D’Souza and I love being married.

However you think your marriage is going, every moment is a chance to turn it around.

I’m here to remind you that it starts with you making a choice and then taking an action.


When I got married in 2007 and people asked me what it’s like being married, I said: “the good bits are even better, and the bad bits are even worse”.

It is a roller-coaster.

I just didn’t expect it to be as much as it turned out to be!

(The picture is August 2022 on holiday in Sicily…we take a monthly picture which I set as the wallpaper on all my devices…then I have them made into a calendar for the next year – feel free to steal this idea!)

What I Expected vs. What Happened

What I expected:

  1. …get a house
  2. …earn more money
  3. …have a family
  4. …live happily ever after

What actually happened:

  1. …get a house [check]
  2. …earn more money [check…with ups and downs]
    • …work hard, get promoted, resign senior role
    • …wife’s job gets made redundant three times
    • …enjoying managing money together; playing to our strengths
  3. …have a family [er…no]
    • …failed fertility treatment
    • … dealt with infidelity
    • …wife diagnosed with autoimmune condition, has surgery, now pain-free – yay
    • …I get diagnosed with cancer, have surgery, and now 21 months cancer-free – yay
    • …choosing to be childless
  4. …live happily ever after [check…and it’s more than that]
    • …aiming to enjoy each day more than the last…

Friends ask ‘How come you’re like this?’

People say to us

  • “You two are great together.”
  • “You’re both so photogenic.”
  • “I can’t believe you’re in your 40s.”

I took the best of all the self-help books I read and personal development courses I completed and applied it to my life. It helped me better understand myself as a husband and a man.

Friends started asking, “How come you’re like this?”

Soooo…I got certified as a coach to pass on what I’ve learned…so that other guys can create a fulfilling and enjoyable marriage too.

Two other BIG reasons I started Your Best Marriage…

First – not much prepares men for being married – there’s no one-size-fits-all solution. In the U.K. the divorce rate is one in three marriages. In the U.S. it’s around one in two.

Second – masculinity is going through deep and lasting changes – I want to give married men solutions to positively impact this bigger conversation.

Your unique qualities as a man and husband are the *starting point* for my approach.

It IS possible for you to build a marriage that’s intimate, fulfilling, and have it be a way to make your dreams real. Click the button below to get started.

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